Updated: Jun 30, 2020
Adam and Eve.
The first married couple.
They didn't have a formal wedding ceremony.
They didn't have an officiant.
They did not recite vows.
Or did they?
Let’s take a look at the first marriage ever and the components of it.
And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. Genesis 2:21-22
So God made the woman from man.
God created her to be the one that would perfectly meet his needs; his helpmeet.
He made the woman from his rib and not from his head or foot to symbolize that she was not to rule over the man, nor was the man to oppress the woman.
The rib has three main features: protect, support, and respiration.
The rib protects the lungs and the heart.
It supports the muscles and is flexible and can expand and contract based on the actions of the muscles of respiration.
Your duty as a wife is to protect your man of God’s heart, the organ that essentially keeps him alive, and to protect his lungs, his oxygen.
You are to protect whatever he is breathing and taking in and then distributing to the rest of his body.
You are to support him in his endeavours, his walk with God, his trials and tribulations.
And you are to help him to breathe.
Not stifle his breathing with the cares of this world, but help him breathe easily.
And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Genesis 2:23
Now this was the vow that Adam made to Eve.
We have our traditional vows of
I, ___, take thee, ___, to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my faith [or] pledge myself to you.
Which is great.
And I'm not knocking 'em.
These are very close to the ones that I recited at my own wedding.
However, Adam said the same thing, just in fewer words.
He made the commitment that whatever we go through, the good, the bad, the ugly, we’ll be going through it together because now you are apart of me.
We are one.
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. Genesis 2:24-25
Here, God is the officiant of this marriage and establishes the foundations for future marriages because Adam and Eve had no parents to leave.
But do you see how God thinks of everything?
When we get married, we are to be one flesh.
It is no longer you and I, but we and us.
And they were not ashamed.
They knew that they were naked, which meant that they had no secrets between them, no infidelity, no nothing.
Each one was an open book to the other.
I remember being in a relationship. I was living with my boyfriend at the time and we had broken up, but still living together.
Prior to that, we had no issue being unclothed in front of each other.
Again, we were living in sin, shacking up and fornicating.
That's what the old saints would call it lol
Once we broke up, that immediately changed.
We still lived together, but we no longer just walked around in our birthday suits because the “covenant” that we had with one another was no longer there.
When you're in covenant with your husbands, nothing is off limits, especially your body.
You are one flesh.
So there we have it.
No big wedding.
No white dress.
Simply, God and the couple.
A three strand cord.
The first marriage and the first vows.
Does this change your thoughts on your vows or how you will move differently in your marriage?